Keep Your Sugar

Recently we have moved back to Utah.  I dislike it here.  I have my reasons, but I'll leave it at that for now.  And yes, I am qualified to hate it because I grew up here.

I don't like sugar coating.  Unless your a child, you should hear things the way they are.  I'm not saying that people need to say mean or malicious things, but I do believe that honesty is the best policy, even when it's hard to bear.  Which leads me into the number one thing I hate about living here:  People who insult you while pretending to be nice.

The best and perfect example is when people use the term "bless her heart."  Or his heart, or their heart, or whatever.  Bleh.  Just stab them in the back why don't you.  People don't say it because they actually wish blessings on a person, and they use it as an excuse to say anything.  Such as, "She's such a husband stealing home wrecker, bless her heart."  Yeah, keep your ill fated "blessings" to yourself.  My heart is fine.  And if you're using it sarcastically to mock these people, then please, use it more.

Another backhanded compliment?  Using the term "dearest" if you're under the age of 65.  I think my grandmother is the only person in this world I have ever heard use this genuinely.  Otherwise, it's a precursor for a comment that is only meant to be condescending.  So, if you think you are better than everyone else, then by all means, use it frequently.  But I see right through you, so don't expect us to be friends.

These are not exclusive (nor are they mutually exclusive).  There are many ways to try and convince people that you are being nice but actually have ill intent.  If I dislike you, I will not try and be your friend, as a favor to you.  That is my promise.  I only ask that you do the same.