I'll be honest, after Junior High I didn't think it would be hard to make friends. By the end of high school I felt like I could be friends with anyone, college revolves around being social, and then when you get married and eventually have kids, you'll just be friends with the neighbors and add them to the retainer of friends you've collected over the years.
Ummmm.... or not so much.
Sometimes I think it's harder to make friends now than ever before. Mostly because I'm trying to make friends for two of us. I mean, I have plenty of friends that I enjoy by myself and so does my husband, but it's really difficult to find a couple that both of us really, really enjoy being with. He'll make friends with a guy and try to coerce me into being friends with the wife, but it rarely works. Or I'm friends with a woman and try to get him to hang out with the husband and he couldn't be less interested. Ironically, he is very good friends with the guy friends I've brought into the marriage. Weird.
Anyway, it's just hard to keep both parties socially satisfied when it comes to couple friends. I really hope other people struggle with this.....
You know what else is the worst? When an existing friend marries someone you are not a huge fan of. Yeah, that stinks. In fact, I'd say this is one of the most common reasons it's hard to keep old friends.
I'd say it's a little more complicated for us being a childless couple too. Many friends our age have children and if I go out with the ladies, there is no way the Mr. is spending the night with the other guys babysitting. He refuses. He'd rather spend the night alone. I do admit that he's not the most comfortable human around children, so it makes sense, but it does complicate things a bit. Particularly because I often spend time with women when their children are around.
I guess the thing is, it's so refreshing when you do find a couple that you both mesh with. It makes me want to hang on to them much tighter.
Anyway, it's just hard to keep both parties socially satisfied when it comes to couple friends. I really hope other people struggle with this.....
You know what else is the worst? When an existing friend marries someone you are not a huge fan of. Yeah, that stinks. In fact, I'd say this is one of the most common reasons it's hard to keep old friends.
I'd say it's a little more complicated for us being a childless couple too. Many friends our age have children and if I go out with the ladies, there is no way the Mr. is spending the night with the other guys babysitting. He refuses. He'd rather spend the night alone. I do admit that he's not the most comfortable human around children, so it makes sense, but it does complicate things a bit. Particularly because I often spend time with women when their children are around.
I guess the thing is, it's so refreshing when you do find a couple that you both mesh with. It makes me want to hang on to them much tighter.
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