So, you wanna know one thing I hate about being married? When I get together with all my girlfriends, many conversations revolve around how our husbands are so strange, or disgusting, or lazy, or peculiar, and sometimes much worse. It's nice to know that other people go through some of the same frustrations, but sometimes I think we fail to see the best in people.
What happened to the days when I'd come home to my roommates, star-struck by young love as I sigh and land on the couch, only to have my roommates crawling over each other to hear how awesome my date went? I really miss that.
Yet, I realize that I still get those same feelings occasionally, when I'm not wiping toothpaste off the mirror or yelling for the hubby to shut the bathroom door when he takes a crap. Sometimes the glamour is overlooked, but it seems like the real important things are still intact.
Marriage is hard. Even for those of us who are better than most at it. It is amazing how differently you picture it before you are in it and yet there is still nothing tangible to pass on to help prepare those who haven't been married. It just comes with it's unique circumstances and trials that we all have to deal with as they come and go.
But, even as we approach 6 years of marriage, I am reminded every day and certainly more often than in past years, how much I love my husband. How he truly is the light of my life. How he honestly holds the power to make all my dreams come true, regardless of the fact that they are much different than they used to be and ever-changing.
There is some uncertainty as a young adult to where life will take you and you know that somewhere along the way you could meet someone that completely redirects your course. For me, it was a constant. It was lonely more often than I'd ever admit. There was some stress and a fair amount of pressure on how every choice I made could alter my destiny.
Now, even when I'm lonely, I know I'm really never alone. I know that someone loves me and I hope with all my heart he knows how much I love him. He makes me laugh every single day. He gives me the strength and freedom I need to feel independent while still knowing how dependent I really am. We don't always bring out the best in each other, but we push each other to try new things and do better. He is my very best friend. I am such a private person, but I am surprised at how much more comfortable I feel sharing things with him, and it gets easier with the amount of time that passes. It's so nice to know that no matter what, somebody's got your back.
Our little family of two is ever strengthening, it's roots growing deeper all the time. We become more attached, more intertwined, more synchronized, more complete with every passing moment. Marriage truly has made me a better person, even in ways I could have never imagined.
That's what it is all about!
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